Entj dating

Dating an ENTJ personality can be an eye-opening experience. “Executives” see the world as a puzzle to be solved or a maze of possibilities that only need to be figured out. They love learning and have a yearning to constantly improve or move forward. Show your ENTJ that you are up for trying new experiences but don’t allow his or her ... ISTJ – These are practical, responsible and private people. These traits appeal to an INTJ. INTP – It is the intellectual and socially awkward side that draws the INTJ to this type.. ISFP – Sensitive and nurturing, this type wants to create a caring environment, something the INTJ loves.. Slight Differences. INFP; INFJ; ISFJ; ISTP; These personality types are the next best thing for INTJs. The ENTJ loves a good challenge. They tend to see life as one great competition—there is much to do and much to be conquered—and romance is no different. Because of the ENTJs decisive, commanding personality, they usually find themselves in some sort of position of authority. And these positions—business, athletics, politics, or whatever catches their… ENTJs and Dating. If an ENTJ likes you, they will let you know with their characteristic directness. Similarly, their partners always know where they stand in terms of the relationship as the ENTJ likes to keep things clear and dislikes ambiguity. ENTJ Dating Do’s and Don’ts. If you’re dating an ENTJ you’ll want to be ready for an exciting, intellectually stimulating, busy experience. They are usually confident, ambitious, determined, and decisive. They take their relationships seriously and if you’re dating them you’ll want to be absolutely clear about what your expectations ... But as all goes well in the dating phase and a future is deemed viable, people with the Commander personality type continue to impress with their creativity and energy. Their authentic confidence makes Commanders’ sex life dynamic to say the least, and they often push to explore new ways to express their affection with imaginative enthusiasm. ENTJ Flirting & Dating: How to Attract an ENTJ When it comes to dating some people take this more seriously than others do. We all have our own personal wants and expectations when it comes to relationships and certain things we are attracted to. For some romantic relationships are far more important than for others, […] Here are a few tips to guide you if you are dating an ENTJ man or woman. Engage them intellectually Like all personality types with Thinking and Judging characteristics, the ENTJ has a keen, analytical mind which uses logic and reasoning to understand the world and solve life’s problems. Such a personality is most likely to be geared to ...

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The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a test that attempts to meaningfully divide people into 16 psychological types, using personal preferences and theory developed by Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Jung. There are four dimensions of preference: >Introversion (I) / Extroversion (E) >Intuition (N) / Sensing (S) >Thinking (T) / Feeling (F) >Judging (J) / Perceiving (P) We are Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking Judgers.
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2008.11.21 12:50 analytical, conceptual and objective

For those who score INTJ on MBTI tests. Check the [/INTJ rules](/intj/about/rules/) and the [FAQ](/intj/wiki/index#wiki_f.a.q.) before posting.
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2015.03.12 09:01 DeanKeaton r/MBTIDating - Certain Personalities Work Well Together

Certain personalities work well together, but you knew that already, didn't you? /MBTIDating is a R4R style personals and dating advice subreddit for the 16 Myers-Briggs (MBTI) personality types.
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2020.09.28 09:15 Lonely_Scale_8295 Handling rejections in love

Hi entj. I (M27) am supposed to be one of you. I am stuck in a dilemma about love/relationships and handling rejections lately, and wanted to see if also some other ENTJs have experienced something similar before.
I have been single for about three years now. All I do is casual dating via Tinder, none of my dates lasts more than a couple of days in a row. I am starting getting frustrated and wonder whether the problem with so many failures is me: my conclusion is that it must be me, because it can't always be everybody else.
I don't seem able to handle rejection well anymore. I never got more than frustrated after a girl would tell me she is not interested in dating me anymore. Lately, instead, I get clearly angry about it. I dream about silly revenges towards girls I liked and that refused me. I know it sounds incredibly immature, rationally I know. But I just feel so much dissatisfaction and hate for all of this right now that I just don't care anymore. I am not proud of this.
My INFJ best friend claims my contempt towards the world/the people that refuse me is just contempt towards myself in disguise, and does not support this new hateful attitude of mine. But I'd like opinions from other ENTJs like me instead, and I don't know others irl. Thank you.
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2020.09.27 01:05 hotelDenouement hello! you guys :)

i just found out this week that two of my friends that i respect the most are both ENTJs (they even dated for a while!). i wanted to say that you guys are really awesome, and i admire your will to push onward and break barriers. i love your perfectionist qualities that make you amazing leaders. i really hope you are all taking care of yourselves and making good changes in the world, because if anyone can, it's you lot.
-love from an enfj <3
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2020.09.23 04:06 Panda_Pineapple What type of social life did you have in high school/college?

For reference, I’m an ENTJ(21M) in college.
In high school, I was extremely driven to excel in both academics and athletics. During school, I was relatively well liked and had a lot of “friends,” but I didn’t really spend time with classmates out of class. I had a few close friends who I consistently spent time with outside of school, but I preferred to spend most of my time studying, training for sports, or just having the occasional downtime. I went to parties occasionally but only once I was finished with the athletic season.
Now, I’m in college. I decided to go to community college because I wanted to save money and they gave me solid scholarships. At CC, I have continued to play sports while studying engineering and working. I spend more time with my close friends than I did in high school, but I now refuse to waste my time on any form of partying. I would rather spend time developing skills (investing/reading) and habits that’ll benefit me in the future. I have not dated many girls either because I have not met many that I could see a potential future with.
I assumed my social life would be different once I transferred to a university and that I would find people more like-minded. However, I just visited one of my friends at a local college, and it felt other-worldly. I felt like I was an older adult visiting a high school, and It felt like I was in a completely different stage of life than everyone at the school, even though I’m the same age/younger than everyone there. I extremely focused on the future while most of the students there seemed only focused on the moment. I’m set to transfer to a university next year, but based on my experiences, I’m not looking forward to the social aspect. I know I will find people that I can relate to, but it seems like it will be difficult.
Can anyone else relate to this? How was/is your social life during school?
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2020.09.22 19:38 lilpizzapocket Myers Briggs/OCEAN Test Anyone?

(Just a note: I wouldn’t take this post super seriously, just my observation. People can change if they want to change and labeling yourself can be harmful. Just curious about your experience with MBTI and tests like these.)
Dating profiles often include MBTI nowadays. They are either -T (turbulent) or -A (assertive). If someone on their profile states they are -T, stay away. (Example: INTJ-T)
Most people aren’t that deep into it and won’t treat it as more than a silly little horoscope career test. Some people may find it invasive if you ask them to do the test. A lot of people just end up trying to “type” others, (which is not a great idea either.)
If they have a -T, it means they are turbulent, leaning towards being immature, insecure, low self esteem, and generally unhealthy minded. Likely codependent and/or covertly narcissistic.
-A means they are assertive, and generally healthy minded and independent. Regardless of type, -A is pretty good. (Could also mean overconfident asshole who thinks they are the shit or someone who is just generally confident)
I used to be -T and now I am -A, so I know this for myself lol! It’s a huge difference in mindset, and how you view and treat others and yourself.
I would be most wary of INFP/INTJ/INTP/ENTP/ENTJ-T men, unless they are -A most are gonna be -T. They have the “forever alone” reputation.
Though INTP men are going to be more open minded, they are still in the “muh logiCaL minD superIoR to feeLinGs” camp. Check out their Reddit subs.
Mature people of any type can get along with anyone of any type. It’s still just a test and not 100% fool proof or super accurate. Most people will mistype themselves or see themselves as better or worse than they are depending on their ego. It’s hard to be objective with yourself so I wouldn’t take it too seriously.
As for OCEAN test, I see having high O (openness) and C (conscientiousness) as a great trait to have. Translation: they are organized and empathetic/open to new things and perspectives.
If you haven’t done it already, these tests are just another way to get to know yourself and others.
Edit: As a heads up, do not tell men your MBTI type, that’s too much personal information and they will just stereotype and judge you by it.
Also MBTI is a good example of “if someone tells you who they are, you should believe them.”
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2020.09.22 04:06 TheOGJammies Video on ENTJ Dating and Relationships - Thoughts?

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2020.09.21 02:37 personalitytests123 MBTI Types and HEXACO Results

Hello everybody, I recently posted in the subreddits for all of the different MBTI types asking if people would be willing to take the HEXACO test and share their results. I have started analyzing the data and thought I would share some of the things I have learned so far. I should clarify that I am not quite done analyzing everything yet the way I would like to, so I will be updating this post as time goes on. Also, if you haven't already taken the test and posted your results you could take the test at https://hexaco.org/hexaco-online. After you take the test please post your numerical results (not the graphs) along with your MBTI type below.
Anyways, so for some background on the HEXACO model, the HEXACO model is essentially the same as The Big Five except that it adds a new trait for honesty-humility. I learned about the HEXACO model by reading about it and taking it online. I have also read a book by the researchers who developed the model titled "The H Factor of Personality: Why Some People are Manipulative, Self-Entitled, Materialistic, and Exploitive—And Why It Matters for Everyone", where they explore the new honesty-humility factor.
Both the HEXACO and The Big Five are trait personality theories, and they were developed by asking people to rate themselves on adjectives such "cheerfulness" or "outgoingness". They then looked to see what adjectives were correlated together, and combined these adjectives into a group. The reason they did this is that some adjectives describe essentially the same thing (or they are opposites so they are on the same scale). For example, cheerfulness and liveliness are basically the same. Eventually, the founders of The Big Five found that they were able to consolidate adjectives into five basic traits which are: extraversion, neuroticism, openness, consciousness, and agreeableness.
The HEXACO was developed later when a pair of researchers performed this same process with eastern, Asian languages and discovered that their adjectives actually clustered into six categories, rather than just five. They then re-did this analysis in western cultures and they again discovered these same six factors. The first five factors were the same as those in The Big Five, but the new sixth factor they discovered was honesty-humility. The reason why honesty-humility wasn't discovered originally with the original Big Five research is that that research was performed earlier than the HEXACO before computers and higher processing power was available, so they had to limit themselves to fewer adjectives in their research.
In summary, the HEXACO model measures the level's of people's humility-honesty (H), emotionality (E, note that this is referred to as neuroticism in The Big Five), extraversion (X), agreeableness (A), consciousness (C), and openness (O). The H factor is pretty straightforward in that people who are high in it tend to be honest, sincere, and modest, whereas people who are low in the H factor tend to lie more, are more narcissistic, and are more materialistic. Emotionality measures your levels of anxiety, fearfulness, emotional dependence on others, and sentimentality. Extraversion measures not only how sociable you are, but also your overall levels of positive emotions such as liveliness. Agreeableness measures how willing you are to forgive other people, as well as how easy you are to get along with overall. Consciousness measures how strong your work ethic is and how much you plan out your life. I should also note that people with low levels of consciousness typically have poorer impulse control. Lastly, openness to experience measures how willing you are to explore new ideas such as intellectual ideas, and also how creativity you are.
Overall, when I last analyzed the date there were a total of 60 respondents. So far 38 intuitives and 22 sensors have responded, so be aware that the all respondents results are skewed toward intuitives at the moment. With that being said here are some of the things I have found so far by applying a t-test analysis to a variety of different traits:
I intend to do further analysis by looking at each individual type. However, at the time I performed my most recent analysis of the data no ESTJs, ENTJs, or ESFPs had responded. Additionally, a number of other types only have a few respondents, so the more people that would be willing to take the test so that I could analyze their test results the better.
TLDR: I am looking at how HEXACO test results correlate to MBTI type. The raw data and analysis can be found at the following link: Data Analysis.xlsx Also, if you haven't taken the test yet, please take the test at https://hexaco.org/, so that I can have more data for the analysis. Make sure to post your numerical results though, because I can't analyze data from the graphs. You can get the numerical results if you scroll down the results page and click on the "obtain my results in pdf format" icon.
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2020.09.19 03:31 RoundEarth-is-real Micheal Scott from the office is an ENFJ don’t @ me

It really all comes down to his childishness. I’m not trying to throw ENFJ’s under the bus, but they act like children because of the effect Se has on their psyche. Ultimately Se child in ENFJ’s inherently makes them act childish, and what do all of the people see micheal as... He’s also VERY unaware of his status, ENFP’s are typically very aware of there status because of Te. Since ENFJ’s don’t have Te, it would make them very unaware of status which as I have already mentioned Micheal is very unaware. He also doesn’t really do what he should do, which wouldn’t be an ENFP thing because they would do what they are supposed to because of Ne and Si. He also only really does what he wants, there are a few exceptions to this like when he was dating Jan, but usually he goes by the beat of his own drum. Also I think Dwight is an ENTJ but that’s a discussion for another day. The only thing that’s a little dodgy I’ll admit is the influence of Fi, he could very well be an Fi user, but as for everything else I think it’s also very possible he is actually an ENFJ.
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2020.09.18 06:24 Steve_Dobbs ENTJ dating compatibility is correlative to their IQ.


Hypothesis: ENTJs subconsiously guage their partner's intelligence as a basis for attraction.
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2020.09.16 20:12 gangofpigeons SOS: Dating as an ENTJ woman? Trying to balance my urge to organize, plan, and control with my "feminine side"? 😭

Anyone with experience?
Wisdom?
A prayer?
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2020.09.15 15:42 etherealcharmander Which middle function is most preferred by each type?

Welcome everyone, to the long awaited results for my controversial polls. I call them that because I had plenty of comments asking me why I think its possible for someone to prefer their auxiliary function over their tertiary, it just doesn't make sense. I believe that Objective Personality came up with this theory from what I've found, at least they're the ones that put it out there as far as I have seen. The theory talks about the "animals/actions" which refer to the order in which the functions are used in your stack. They are called Sleep, Blast, Play, and Consume. This explains how some people are able to prefer their third function first then go to their second function second. I will leave a link explaining all of these words so that I don't have to clutter this post doing so.
https://www.ithinkifeel.com/home/2020/3/8/function-actions-objectiver-personality
Now, here's why I made this poll in the first place. I've been going in circles trying to properly type myself and I've fully concluded, I'm still an INFP, not an INFJ. While I have properly disciplined myself to be punctual and organized, I am still a natural mess by heart. There were many INFPs disagreeing with me saying that I can't possibly be an INFP because we hate structure and love to just do things in the moment. I digress. Well developed people CAN prefer their third function, maybe seeing it as a goal or challenge to learn how to master. On the other hand, they can dislike it, seeing their aux function as all they need.
I got plenty of feedback about this poll, some positive, some negative. Some misunderstandings were happening as well. While I understand that everyone uses both middle functions together, it was not my intention for people to fully pick one over the other, but to pick which one comes first to them. I explained to many that it's usually a 60/40 split on either side and it doesn't really matter which side.
Before we get into the results, of course these aren't going to be 100% accurate, but we can speculate on why some graphs look different than others. To start, there's not a ton of sensors in the online MBTI community as compared to intuitives (or many intuitives are mistyped) so that messes with the results a little. There is also the fact that people could've just chosen the function they think is cooler or better, instead of the one they actually use first. So I will give a few of my thoughts about the results and let you guys argue or discuss in the comments.
https://m.imgur.com/a/YNFeeGt
The IxFJs overwhelmingly chose Ti over Fe. Someone suggested that this might be because of a certain number of them being in an Ni-Ti or Si-Ti loop, which is possible. Loops are using the first and third function and ignoring the second to balance the two instead of using the third function then the second right after.
ENFPs seemed to prefer Te while ESFPs seemed to prefer Fi. This could be because of the differences in Ne and Se. Most stated that they use Te for real life things and Fi is usually just there to guide them along the way.
I don't have much to say for the ESxJs as there weren't many participants, but I do wonder why the ESTJs picked Ne over Si.
It seems like the ENxJs overwhelmingly preferred their aux function. I had a few conversations with some ENTJs about this whole thing. In short, not understanding why a person with an N in the type could possibly prefer an S function. So it seems like this group was the most opposed to this theory. It shows in the results as well.
The ISxPs were pretty split as well. Very balanced. Most still preferring their Se but still use a good amount of Ni as well. Nothing much to say here except very balanced souls.
The ExTPs love their Ti. I date an ENTP irl that constantly uses Fe. To all you guys out there, don't be so critical of your third function. It's not here to hurt you. It's here to give you that balance. Give it a chance!
The IxTJs were pretty solid. Most of them preferring Te over Fi. They are pretty average results and nothing out of the ordinary here imo.
The INxPs oh boy here's where I get to ramble for the last time. These are the people that absolutely love to use their Ne and hate being grounded in reality. The consensus seems to be I've got this ability to see so many possibilities, why would I choose that other one over this? Which I can understand. It seems like Ne is very important to us. I respect you guys. Just please stop telling me I can't be an INFP because of this xD
And that's all folks! Very long post here. Please leave any feedback you have about this theory, whether you agree or disagree and why. If you didn't get a chance to participate in the polls, let me know what you would have chosen and why. Overall, just remember these are all theories and concepts, you are not limited to what your type says you can do or who you can be. Have a great day/evening/night/morning everybody.
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2020.09.15 05:22 Abestergram What are your hobbies and dress sense so that us ENTJ may spot you for and pursue a date? ENTJ male here 🤙

From New Zealand too if that encourages the radar. Otherwise interested to hear 👂 about you.
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2020.09.14 21:41 giosaraiv What's my MBTI type?

(Sorry if I made some grammar mistakes, english is not my first language)
I've scored INTP, ENTP, INTJ and ENTJ in differents MBTI tests.
• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I'm a 16 year old female. I consider myself an ambivert, I have a lot of acquaintances, but just a few close friends who I trust. I think the adjectives that describes me the better are: Eccentric, decided, smart, curious and maybe individualist.

• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
No.

• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
My parents are strict in the right measure. I was raised christian, and I still am.

• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
I'm still in high school, but I aspire to be a fashion designer and entrepreneur.

• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
Both. I often spend a lot of time alone during my regular days. I really enjoy it, but frequently feel lonely.

• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
I like to read, watch films and go out with my friends; Sometimes I also like to write (poetry and short stories.) I hate all kind of sports.

• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
I'm very curious, and I have way more ideas than I can execute. My curiosities are usually about everything, but especially art and psychology and general. I also would say I have a certain fixation by patterns; Like car license plates, dates, and social patterns. My ideas are mostly conceptual, but if I'm dealing with some kind of project or a real problem, my ideas tend to be more practical and logical.

• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
I think I'm good at leadershiping and I usually enjoy it. In a group of people, I tend to listen to everyone ideas, but I just actually take the ones that make sense. I'm not really worried about consensus and everyone's satisfaction. I'll decide for what I think will work.

• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
I like to draw and sew. I don't know if that's handwork.

• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
Yes. I do amateur writing and fashion design. I also appreciate music and a bit of filmmaking.

• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
Often I feel haunted by my past or worried about my future. But I think I live in the moment, sometimes I'm reckless or impulsive, but I trust my intuition.

• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
If someone I care about need a practical help, I'll do it with great pleasure. I usually don't measure efforts to help my friends.

• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Yes, not always. But mostly, yes.

• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
I'm a big procrastinator. I wish I could be more productive but I'm not. Anyways, things always seems to succeed with me even if I do it in the last moment. I understand and learn things fast and easily.

• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
I do, but it's kind of unconscious. I'm always likely to induce people to do/get whatever I want.

• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
I like to learn things when I understand the concepts, the reasons. I'm not really into details or memorization of facts if I don't understand "why".

• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
I'm not really good at breaking up projects into manageable tasks. I like to plan, but I just improvise as I go.

• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
I want to live my dreams and get knowlege. I'm really thirsty for adventure and different experiences.

• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
I'm afraid of being alone or misunderstood. I hate shallow relationships and being called stupid or selfish.

• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
Everything just going all right. My relationships, my academic life and my personal goals. In those times I'm not feeling lazy or stressed and I have motivation to do whatever I want.

• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
Having significand problems and any important area of my life. Especially if those are problems I can't do much about it or I'm too lazy to do something.

• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
I'm definitely a daydreamer. It's kinda contradictory the fact that I'm very realistic but I live in the ideas world.
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
I would find a way to create interesting things.

• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
I often take a very long time to make an important decision. I usually don't change my mind, but I like to have a way back.

• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
It's hard for me to understand my own emotions, but I think I'm good at controlling them. Emotions are very important in my life, but they are not everything.

• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
I never do that. If I disagree with someone, I'll just say it. I actually have fun while arguing, and I like to prove my point if I'm right, and learn something if I'm wrong (But I really enjoy when I win.)

• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
I think it's good to question and challenge authority if I think they are wrong. I don't follow rules blindly. If the rule is logical and I think it's right, I'll follow it; If not, I'll question it; If necessary, I'll break it.
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2020.09.12 18:11 Nutmeg_2002 If MBTI had Fanfiction - pt 2/4 (INFJ x ENTP)

Part 1
Content Warning: This chapter is Safe For Work, but contains common media tropes that is often found in fanfiction that some may find inappropriate.
A/N: Greetings, fellow citizens of UnderworldMBTI! It's been over a month since I posted the first part. I was scared I might post something too cringy.
This might be a bit confusing without reading the first chapter, so please do so first. Once again, it's a parody of fanfiction in general, while also parodying MBTI sterotypes. This is NOT meant to be taken seriously, and is not meant to offend anyone or any type. I must, however, warn you; there will be cringe; possibly more than in the first part. I don't mean this lightly. And another reminder that certain parts of the story may be disturbing. Viewer discretion advised.
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Chapter 2: INFJ x ENTP
The humid afternoon air blew against INFJ’s hair as she stepped out of the school building. The day passed like every other day did. She woke up, went to all her classes, and discussed her work for the Conveniently Timed Festival-Concert-Thing with ESTJ. Yet, something was… off that day. INFJ could feel it. She would sometimes feel like she was being watched, but every time she’d turn to look, she would remember that it was pointless to do so with inferior Se.
Well, there were a couple of changes. INFP had stopped dyeing her hair brown. Knowing her, INFJ didn’t know if she should be happy or worried. Sure, INFP and ISTJ weren’t walking home together after school that day, but INFJ had already used her Ni to sense intuit that they weren’t friends anymore, and that INFP was now dating someone. While she could figure out what was happening around her when it’s convenient to the plot, she still couldn’t seem to figure out what was bothering her. As the afternoon sun dropped behind a cloud, INFJ felt a chill down her spine. Almost as if-
“WE’RE GOING TO THE ORANGE JUICE PLACE!” ENFP jumped out from behind INFJ.
“ENFP! You nearly gave me a heart attack!” INFJ said, brushing a loose strand of her naturally silver hair behind her ear.
“Sorry about that! I’M JUST REALLY EXCITED! It’s INTP’s birthday today, so ENTJ’s hosting a party at The Orange Juice Place! She invited a couple of people including- you guessed it- me!!! I mean, she didn’t exactly invite me, per se, but INTJ declined saying she was “too busy with the Conveniently Timed Festival-Concert-Thing”, so I managed to do a bit of bargaining until she let me attend the party! Nothing much, I just had to promise to not speak the entire time, “for INTP’s sake”! Which is totally fine because I am such an introvert, am I right?! If anything, it’s a total loss for INTP, because who wouldn’t want to listen to me talk for 4 hours straight?!! I asked ENTJ, if I could invite one more person… I admit that she was a bit hesitant at first, but she agreed to it when I told her who it was! cAN YOU GUesS WHO It waS???!!!!!!” ENFP asked, breaking into a dance in the middle of the sidewalk.
“….me?” INFJ asked.
Ding ding! Correct!!!” ENFP grinned, pointing finger guns at INFJ.
“I don’t know if parties are really my thi-“
“Come on! It’s just one party! You’re in high school; one night of drinking orange juice won’t hurt!”
Truthfully speaking, INFJ did not want to go to The Orange Juice Place. For one, she seemed to be one of the only characters in this story, who cared about the fact that they were high school students, and that they had a huge Math test the very next day. And secondly, INFJ was uncomfortable with the fact that this plan was made last minute. However, ENFP was her childhood friend. He was the only one who even came close to understanding her, and she didn’t want him to be upset. So instead, she used her Fe to pretend that she was excited.
“Sounds like fun!” INFJ lied, “What’s the worst that could happen?”
***
“You’re late,” ENTJ said without looking up from her phone.
“Hey, we didn’t know INTP would actually be here on time!” ISTP said, causing ENTJ to actually look up at them.
“You invited more people?” INTP asked, taking his eyes off of his laptop for the first time since he’d arrived.
INFJ knew it was going to be a long night the moment she saw the three of them walk through the door. To be fair, it hadn’t been the best evening she’d had. INTP himself had spent the whole time messaging INTJ about the Festival-Concert Thing and talking to his anime girlfriend, whom he had brought along on his laptop. INFJ talked to ENTJ about the work she had to do for the Festival-Concert Thing, until ENFP found a loophole in ENTJ’s demand, and started texting her about a new idea he had about space cats. You’re not really paying attention to this part. Kek. Frozen banana geese. INFJ had secretly hoped that they were the only people who’d come, but good luck was pretty rare for her. But she certainly hadn’t expected them.
“Yeah, I thought I’d invite them along. They told me I couldn’t be the most interesting person here if I they came along too, so I wanted to prove them wrong,” ENTP smirked, ruffling his hair.
ENTP. Of course. He was the only one who’d have no problem inviting the cool kids over to INTP’s birthday party, if you could even call it that. ENTP had messy black hair and eyes that were the colour of melted chocolate chips. ENTP would always walk around school looking for people to debate with about politics and bad puns. Everyone else thought ENTP was cool. But INFJ, being extremely smart and observant, knew that looks weren’t a good representation of someone’s character. He was the first one to start throwing his milk carton at ISTJ, after they had a disagreement over whether or not pizza could be considered a sandwich. He’d gotten detention (idk, my school never had them) multiple times for making the feeler substitute teachers cry.
As the others decided to start a game of Truth or Dare, ENFP excused himself to go to the washroom. INFJ looked around. The Orange Juice place had a lot of customers that night. For a place that sold only orange juice, it was very popular. Somebody could go missing, and you’d never know. Suddenly she noticed a door.
Finally, she thought, If I could just go behind that door and slam it behind me…
“Hey INFJ!”
INFJ looked up. It was ENTP.
“Are you INFP?” he asked, his dark brown eyes gleamed in the dim light.
“No, I’m INFJ. INFP is my-“
“Cause you’re a FiNe SiTe,” ENTP gave a lopsided smile.
INFJ knew what was happening. She could see the others pretending not to pay attention to them. Was ESTP recording this on her phone? Suddenly, INFJ snapped.
“You’re a horrible person, ENTP,” INFJ bluntly replied, “I’m done playing this game.”
ENTP looked taken aback by what she’d said. ISTP burst into laughter from behind them, and ESTP and INTP could be heard cackling along. As ENTP walked back to the others, INFJ sighed. She’d tried all she could to get along with the others, but she just wanted to leave now. She finished the rest of her orange juice and waited for ENFP to come back.
What’s taking her so long? she wondered.
INFJ was so tired, she almost didn’t notice all the commotion that was happening.
“For the last time! We don’t. Serve. Iced. Pumpkin. Spice. Latte!” ENTJ yelled at the top of her lungs.
“That is so unfair! I demand to speak to the manager!” ESFJ raised her voice even higher.
“I AM THE MANAGER!” ENTJ practically screeched back.
“I WANT TO SPEAK TO THE OTHER MANAGER!”
“THE OTHER MANAGER ISN’T HERE TODAY!”
“Then arrange a video call so I can talk to him at once!” ESFJ said, nearly lunging for INTP’s laptop.
“Stay away from my waifu!” INTP hissed as he tried to pull the laptop away from her.
Unfortunately, ESFJ’s sensing won and she managed to close the Doki Doki Literature Club window, causing INTP to curl up into a ball on the floor, devoid of any expression. ESFJ spent the next 10 minutes screaming over ENFJ, who was calmly trying to explain over a video call that she couldn’t keep coming to The Orange Juice Place to yell at him for breaking up with her and-
Wait a minute…
ENFJ didn’t look very calm. INFJ didn’t notice it at first, but he definitely looked pretty scared, now that she paid more attention. Shaky palms, nervous smile…
How could I not have noticed that? I’m always able to tell how everyone is feeling! Something is wrong…
INFJ felt sick. She felt… dizzy? Something was wrong. Where was ENFP? He still hadn’t come back? Or had he? She could feel her vision blur as everything around her turned into a blurry dissonant cacophony of… Was that ENTJ with a Nerf gun?
***
INFJ groaned. Why did her head hurt so much? She opened her eyes, only to find herself in a dark room. She tried to rub her eyes, but realized that her hands and legs were tied to a chair. Panicking, she looked at her surroundings. She seemed to be in a basement, empty except for herself. And her chair. Is it her chair if it belongs to her kidnapper? There was a closed door, but in her current predicament, it would be pretty hard to slam. Suddenly, it all came back to her.
The Orange Juice Place! I was waiting for ENFP to come back. What happened to him? Where am I? What’s going on…
Her thoughts were broken by the sound of footsteps drawing closer. She held her breath as the door swung open.
“Looks like you’re finally awake,” ENTP said, his chocolate-brown orbs fixed on INFJ.
“W-where am I?” INFJ asked, “Why am I here? What’s happening?! Where’s-”
“Do you know how cute you look when you’re asleep?” ENTP sighed, tucking a strand of INFJ’s hair behind her ear, “Although I admit that it does get boring after 18 hours…”
18 hours!? INFJ thought, So much for that Math test...
“When I was young, I had a super sad childhood that’s gonna make the readers sympathize with me and fantasize about wanting to “fix” me. All my life, I’ve been empty and cold,” ENTP said,” But from the moment I first laid eyes on you, all those years ago, something felt… different. That day in elementary school, when you told me off for calling your sister a “poopy-head”, I knew you were mine. You’re the only one who can make me feel whole again…”
ENTP’s gorgeous dark hair almost draped over his eyes, as INFJ looked at him in surprise. Had he always looked this hot? But suddenly, his expression turned dark.
“But that pesky ENFP… He just wouldn’t leave you alone. So, I got rid of him,” an edgy a dark grin crept up on ENTP’s face.
“I couldn’t stand the thought of you talking to anyone besides me. So, I slipped a couple of blueberries into your drink when you weren’t looking, and by the time Karen stopped terrorizing everyone at the Orange Juice Place, I had ESTP and ISTP bring you here without anyone noticing. All I had to do was say that they left after you and ENFP did, because they were tired of hanging out with INTP, and ENTJ actually bought it! I then had INTP text your family that you were gonna live with me, your boyfriend, from now on. I’m sure your sad feeler sisters would understand.”
“Wait… what?!” INFJ panicked.
“Well, I would’ve sent the text myself, if I hadn’t broken my phone yesterday. I know it sounds hard to believe, but I actually lost an argument online. In that moment of weakness, I snapped, and I threw my phone at the-”
“No, I mean, are you going to keep me here forever? Please let me go… I won’t call the cops on you or anything!” INFJ pleaded.
“I’m not letting you off that chair until I’m sure that you’ll never leave me. Now, I’m gonna go back upstairs. Don’t even think about escaping,” ENTP said, totally not foreshadowing what’s about to happen next.
Brushing his messy dark hair away from his dreamy eyes, ENTP went back upstairs, leaving the door open. INFJ struggled against the ropes, until she could free herself. This was possible because ENTP was an epic intuitive and didn’t notice the loose ropes, and not because I’m a lazy writer. INFJ slowly crept upstairs, hoping ENTP wouldn’t notice her. The stairs lead up to what seems to be the dining room. INFJ could hear ENTP arguing with someone at the front door about… alarm clocks? Looks like INFJ wouldn’t be able to slam it any time soon. She looked around for any potential weapons to defend herself. She glanced at the dining table. A NiFe? Nah, too risky. Suddenly, she remembered something- her mobile phone! It was in her pocket the whole time, and she had forgotten about it. She quickly dialed ENTJ’s number. Thankfully, she picked up.
“INFJ? I can’t talk now, I have to pick out the nuclear codes for when I take ov-“
“ENTJ, I’m really sorry, but help!!! ENTP’s holding me hostage at his house!!!!” INFJ almost yelled into the phone.
“INFJ, is everything alright? Why weren’t you at school today?” ENTJ asked.
“ENTP kidnapped me at the party yesterday! I’m really sorry for bothering you like this, but could you please ge-“
INFJ froze, as ENTP grabbed the phone from her.
“Hey, there ENTJ! Sorry to bother you! INFJ drank way too much OJ last night. You guys really should switch to organic orange juice. I’m pretty sure you were browsing Reddit last night after you were done attacking ESFJ with that Nerf gun,” ENTP sounded as casual as ever.
“ENTP, why aren’t you guys at school?” ENTJ asked.
“Well, uh, we were both sick after, uh, drinking too much orange juice. So, I asked INFJ if I could borrow her phone to ask you to ask INTJ to stop asking about the batteries and, umm, well, we started dating!” ENTP explained.
There was a long silence, followed by ENTJ bursting into laughter.
“Classic ENTP! Despite your explanation making no sense whatsoever, I’m gonna believe you over INFJ, despite INFJ seemingly being a good friend of mine. You guys would definitely Now I have to go.” ENTJ said as she hung up the phone.
ENTP’s cheerful demeanor turned dark as he turned towards INFJ.
“I’m sorry! I didn’t mean to do that! Please don’t hurt me!” INFJ begged.
“Alexa,” ENTP said in a stone cold voice, “Play ‘It’s Everyday Bro’ by Jake Paul.”
INFJ writhed in pain from the cringe as Jake Paul’s voice blasted across the room. As she screamed, something in her broke.
Voice: omg heyy I’m a voice in ur head!!! Well, technically, I’m ur conscience…
INFJ: Oh no, are we resorting to this format now? Isn’t this level of cringe a bit too far?
Voice: listen, ENTP is dangerous and you’re developing Stockholm Syndrome! You have to get out of there!
INFJ: What? No, I’m not! I just think ENTP is cute and irrationally think that I could save him from his trauma, despite being kidnapped and tortured by him.
Voice: yeah… that’s Stockholm syndrome.
INFJ: Oh no…
Once ENTP stopped the music, he brushed his hand through INFJ’s hair.
“Look at what you made me do! I don’t like hurting you, INFJ, but you left me with no choice. Do you have any idea how hard it is to be an abusive character the readers have to think is hot?” ENTP said in a softer voice, caressing her cheek (idk, I use Reddit).
“I’m sorry,” INFJ said, as she let ENTP carry her back downstairs to the basement.
“Don’t worry; I won’t hurt you like that ever again. At least, not until the next time the story needs more angst. And now that we’ll be together forever, there’s only one thing left to do,” ENTP flashed an unusually large grin.
What’s ENTP talking about? INFJ wondered. It couldn’t be about letting her use the bathroom after 18 hours: this is fanfiction! A glass of water would’ve been nice, but INFJ was selfless and didn’t care about herself enough to consider any of these possibilities.
“I’ve been waiting for this moment for years!” ENTP said excitedly, tying INFJ back up to the chair in the basement.
“What are you talking about?” INFJ asked, “Please don’t hur-”
“Now, let’s assume that, hypothetically, an IxFP were to waste their time staring at a flower,” ENTP looked (a now terrified) INFJ dead in the eye, “Would it be a fair assessment to say that they have low Se? Or do they have low low Ne?”
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A/N 2: Electric Boogaloo: Sorry for all the cringe. Also, I would like to add that Jake Paul's music and debates about the cognitive function are objectively the worst things INFJ would have to worry about with ENTP. If you ignored all the warnings, read through the whole thing, and still decide to report me to the mods, please let me know in the comments so I can laugh at you. If you are a mod and find this inappropriate, please don't ban me, I'm sorry!
Edit: I do want to add that despite that last Author's Note, I do appreciate criticism. And I might rewrite parts of the story if people find it too uncomfortable.
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2020.09.12 03:16 propositus1234 Is opportunity always elsewhere?

Hello everyone! First time posting and wanted to hear everyone’s thoughts on this. For context, I’m a 23M, college educated, with a decent paying job that I’ve held for a little over a year. Lately, I’ve been finding myself seeking opportunities outside of what I currently have. By opportunities, I mean: personal and professional. For instance, I’ve been seeking professional opportunities non-stop, constantly trying to find something better, in terms of pay, prestige, work environment/conditions. For more mature ENTJs, does this yearning ever stop? Do you or have you ever become content? Or even happy?
Here’s where the seeking personal opportunities come in: I’m having a bit of trouble dating, and I’ve had interests that I’ve pursued just recently but to no success. I’m always day dreaming of moving somewhere completely new and trying my luck so to speak. I have a habit of thinking/believing that opportunity is always found elsewhere- be it professional or personal opportunities, and that the only way to get ahead in life is to quite literally move around/jump around, from job to job, institution to institution.
Any one else struggled or continues to struggle with the same challenges? How did you overcome it? Did you ever become satisfied? Or happy? Would love to hear your thoughts!
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2020.09.12 02:20 sherlocked63 Hello INFPs! I don’t usually post on reddit but wanted to ask for some relationship advice.

I am a male INFP and was in love with an ENTP female. About 2 years ago we broke up due to long distance and other understanding issues caused by the same.
She was able to find another guy but I was never able to completely move on and find another girl. Me being shy socially and introverted did not help since I got more silent when in public.
Fast forward to two months ago, she had broken up with her boyfriend and we both got back to talking terms and talk almost every day now. We’ve both been talking only as really good friends supporting each other during difficulty. During this time, I had also installed dating apps in an attempt to find someone else.
Here’s the problem now. On one hand, I am doubting if I can ever fully trust and open up to another woman and wondering if I should see this time as an opportunity to get back with her instead of trying on the dating apps. On the other hand, I wonder if it could be the wrong move and I end up sabotaging the friendship holding me during these tired lonely times. On a third non existing hand, I read about INFPs and ENTJs being the best match. Again, I thought to myself maybe I need to see more people and then make a decision. But I can’t seem to open up too well.
What do y’all think? I would appreciate any thoughts. Thanks!
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2020.09.11 02:07 CriticalMoney Advice for INFP (F) interested in ENTJ (M)

Hi! I'm an INFP (F) romantically interested in an ENTJ (M), and I would love perspectives / advice from other ENTJs on how to best communicate and make a relationship work, especially since I'm someone more F-oriented. I like to think my Te is somewhat well developed but sometimes his pure objective logic is so shocking in just how super logical it is....where are the human feels? :(
I've read through a ton of similar INFP/ENTJ posts, but felt that our situation was a bit different from most others. For one, despite being INFP, I'm very confrontational (but perhaps too confrontational). I looked into Enneagram recently and I might be 9w8?
TLDR:
We had an amazing, but also tension-filled, 5-6 months of being together before he ended it abruptly over text. Through mutual friends, I managed to convince him to talk with me in-person, and I was able to convince him to give this another shot. Now, we're non-exclusively dating for 3-4 months to assess if a relationship is feasible.
The long version:
THE GOOD
THE NOT SO GOOD
THE SITUATION
We were in a ~situationship~ for 5-6 months, and it was a rather tumultuous time because 1) he had to recruit for a new job while in quarantine (which he did with much success, of course, but it was still rather stressful even if he hid it well), 2) I was going through a stressful time at work and I guess standard to most INFPs I didn't handle the stress very well / freaked out a lot, and 3) in my opinion, there was no clarity in what we were. I wanted to be exclusive, but he wasn't sure. We were both on dating apps and said it was fine for the other person to see other people, but given lockdown, we couldn't realistically see other people. Hence an "exclusive but not supposed to be exclusive" dynamic, which was confusing af.
After a rather weird few months, I tried to end things with him. I felt that things weren't getting any better, and it didn't make sense to invest more time and effort if we weren't going to be official. However, I still felt strongly for him. It was clear that he didn't want things to end, so I decided to give it another chance. We had a ~2 week break from each other, and after the break, he suddenly communicated he was ready to be official. I was pretty surprised, and at this point, I was not sure anymore given the issues we had that were not properly addressed.
Right around this time, he was about to embark on a short vacation before his new job, and we decided to revisit being official after he came back. While he was on vacation, we got into a huge argument over text that, in my opinion, was much bigger than it should have been because it was over text - so tons of misinterpretation / mistranslation. It was also, IMO, an argument that got that big due to the fault of both parties. He abruptly ended it over text and essentially blocked me. He said some pretty mean things in the moment too. I was shocked that he would do something like this - even if you're mad, I believe there's a threshold for how much your anger should control you.
I waited for him to eventually come back around, but he never did, even after he got back from vacation and started his new job. I reached out over another messaging app, where I wasn't blocked, to express my apologies for where I went wrong. He never responded.
I basically agonized for a month, reflected a ton on our differences, and decided that despite all of our issues, he was worth fighting for because I felt that we were compatible in so many other ways. Our issues are actually quite addressable if we committed ourselves to change. One of our mutual friends (male ENTP with very well developed Fe, who my ENTJ respects), who is actually closer to me, managed to convince the very stubborn ENTJ to at least have an in-person conversation with me. We met up and I communicated my desire to work things out. It turns out the only thing he has issue with is my getting "irrationally angry" at small things (I personally think it's more tied to general criticism). I made a promise to address it, and we agreed to date non-exclusively for 3-4 months and go from there. Pretty happy about that, especially since he originally was set on us never working out :)
Now I know what you're thinking - that I'm putting his needs over my own. To be fair, I am. However, he's shown that he is capable of listening and changing his mind. Trying to lead by example by addressing his concerns, learning to show him love through words of affirmation, and see where that takes me.
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2020.09.11 01:57 CriticalMoney Advice for INFP (F) interested in ENTJ (M)

Hi! I'm an INFP (F) romantically interested in an ENTJ (M), and I would love perspectives / advice from other ENTJs on how to best communicate and make a relationship work, especially since I'm someone more F-oriented. I like to think my Te is somewhat well developed but sometimes his pure objective logic is so shocking in just how super logical it is....where are the human feels? :(
I've read through a ton of similar INFP/ENTJ posts, but felt that our situation was a bit different from most others. For one, despite being INFP, I'm very confrontational (but perhaps too confrontational). I looked into Enneagram recently and I might be 9w8?
TLDR:
We had an amazing, but also tension-filled, 5-6 months of being together before he ended it abruptly over text. Through mutual friends, I managed to convince him to talk with me in-person, and I was able to convince him to give this another shot. Now, we're non-exclusively dating for 3-4 months to assess if a relationship is feasible.
The long version:
THE GOOD
THE NOT SO GOOD
THE SITUATION
We were in a ~situationship~ for 5-6 months, and it was a rather tumultuous time because 1) he had to recruit for a new job while in quarantine (which he did with much success, of course, but it was still rather stressful even if he hid it well), 2) I was going through a stressful time at work and I guess standard to most INFPs I didn't handle the stress very well / freaked out a lot, and 3) in my opinion, there was no clarity in what we were. I wanted to be exclusive, but he wasn't sure. We were both on dating apps and said it was fine for the other person to see other people, but given lockdown, we couldn't realistically see other people. Hence an "exclusive but not supposed to be exclusive" dynamic, which was confusing af.
After a rather weird few months, I tried to end things with him. I felt that things weren't getting any better, and it didn't make sense to invest more time and effort if we weren't going to be official. However, I still felt strongly for him. It was clear that he didn't want things to end, so I decided to give it another chance. We had a ~2 week break from each other, and after the break, he suddenly communicated he was ready to be official. I was pretty surprised, and at this point, I was not sure anymore given the issues we had that were not properly addressed.
Right around this time, he was about to embark on a short vacation before his new job, and we decided to revisit being official after he came back. While he was on vacation, we got into a huge argument over text that, in my opinion, was much bigger than it should have been because it was over text - so tons of misinterpretation / mistranslation. It was also, IMO, an argument that got that big due to the fault of both parties. He abruptly ended it over text and essentially blocked me. He said some pretty mean things in the moment too. I was shocked that he would do something like this - even if you're mad, I believe there's a threshold for how much your anger should control you.
I waited for him to eventually come back around, but he never did, even after he got back from vacation and started his new job. I reached out over another messaging app, where I wasn't blocked, to express my apologies for where I went wrong. He never responded.
I basically agonized for a month, reflected a ton on our differences, and decided that despite all of our issues, he was worth fighting for because I felt that we were compatible in so many other ways. Our issues are actually quite addressable if we committed ourselves to change. One of our mutual friends (male ENTP with very well developed Fe, who my ENTJ respects), who is actually closer to me, managed to convince the very stubborn ENTJ to at least have an in-person conversation with me. We met up and I communicated my desire to work things out. It turns out the only thing he has issue with is my getting "irrationally angry" at small things (I personally think it's more tied to general criticism). I made a promise to address it, and we agreed to date non-exclusively for 3-4 months and go from there. Pretty happy about that, especially since he originally was set on us never working out :)
Now I know what you're thinking - that I'm putting his needs over my own. To be fair, I am. However, he's shown that he is capable of listening and changing his mind. Trying to lead by example by addressing his concerns, learning to show him love through words of affirmation, and see where that takes me.
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2020.09.10 05:21 TheOGJammies I’m the ENTJ that started r/FemaleDatingStrategy, AMA

Might be the most ENTJ shit ever tbh.
I ENTJ the best and I’m very proud of me.
ETA: FemaleDatingStrategy is a dating subreddit for women by women that focuses on creating effective strategies to help women maximize the value they get from their relationships. We don’t allow perpetual victimhood, we focus on dismantling faulty ideas and challenging status quo assumptions about what women need and want. We criticize the inefficient and ineffective ways we’re often pressured into behaving (I.e. Pick-Me Culture) that sabotage our actual desires.
It’s controversial because it’s female only and we don’t pretend men and women are on the same playing field or try to be fair. We take an accurate assessment of men which often times makes men sound worse than they’d like to believe themselves to be so they tend to get offended. (Like a typical ENTJ, I tend to think that’s a “them” problem.)
ETA2: Why am I being downvoted? I’m Right! 🙃
ETA3: I officially have the “most controversial post” of all time on this sub! Even in your hatred, I have won. 😆
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2020.09.09 21:31 serenesam Eva Anjos - dating an entj? what to expect

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2020.09.08 12:33 Alireza_Morgan ENTJ having problems dating!

Hey guys,I'm a 22 year old ENTJ from Iran, So I apologize for any errors in my grammar. I have a hard time dating anyone and instead of going to a psychologist I decided to post it here and ask for advice, Cause why not?
As far as the career and money goes I am ahead of almost everyone I know my age, I already have a company with 10 employees and we are expanding. It could have been better but I'm still trying. I am also fairly social, have many friends and am quite tall and muscular with a decent face and even considered charismatic.
I grew up with a PTSD diagnosed father and had a really tough childhood which I was alone most of the time. Which I think is somewhat responsible with my problems today.
The main problem is that I lose interest. Many girls show me affection and try to flirt with me but I usually either don't like them or lose interest in the next few days. There has been only a few people which I have actually liked and wanted to be with in the last couple of years but that didn't work out, Mostly because they were the worst people I could have crushed over. I have only been with one girl my whole life and that ended a couple of years ago. Ever since all I wanted was to love someone and be in a good relationship but I seem unable to.
I always find something I don't like and than it is done. I tried one-night stands for a while but I think my main need in a relationship is affection.
I don't know what to do and how to keep my interest intact. Everyone seems either too stupid, Too needy, Too short, In a relationship or something. I always find a reason.
Sorry you had to hear me ramble, I am honestly asking for help and advice here.
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2020.09.07 17:10 Lilith_314 Still in love with his ex-wife? Now what

Not super specifically ENTJ related, but as an ENTJ woman, I love my tribe’s advice here. You guys give the most solid advice, the type of advice that is most relatable and practical, since you think like me.
You have given me much wisdom on various topics in the past and would much value and appreciate your wise words this time around too.
I met a man online and we have been spending time together regularly (known about three weeks ; at date 8+ish).
He seems like a genuinely nice person and we have lots in common. He seems very excited about me, almost too much.
He got divorced about a year and a half ago. His wife left him. Starting at around date three, he has been talking about her what I feel is A LOT.
I am divorced myself and dated other divorced people in the past. I virtually never bring up my ex, because: it just doesn’t occur to me; there is no reason; especially early in the relationship, mentioning him/talking about him frequently would feel outright rude/unnecessary.
Don’t get me wrong, I am in good terms with my ex, supportive, every once in a blue moon do things together for the kids, still give Holiday presents to each other etc. It’s more like a well intentioned, friendly business relationship.
So I totally get having an ex in the picture/having coparenting relationship (they have a child) and I much rather a million times have him to be amicable and friendly with her rather than be hateful/contentious. But it just seems like something is off..
He talks about trips they took, reference about something she likes to do, or comparisons between us (to my advantage, but still, it makes me feel uncomfortable). Then he mentioned several times with this melancholic face how he would have wanted to work through whatever difficulties they had etc. I think the last few weeks I have known him, he mentioned his ex more than people I have been in year long relationships with. He still has their wedding photo up in the family room. And there is just a vibe..
At the am same time, he does seem genuinely excited about me/us.
Still I feel uncomfortable and like pulling in the breaks. I don’t want to be over dramatic and have some big talk but at this point it also doesn’t feel right to keep going without bringing this up with him.
My plan is to bring it up in a friendly , matter of fact and non judgmental way. Not accuse him of anything, just putting out there that I really like him but this is the vibe I am getting and maybe we should slow things down a bit or take a break until he sorts his feelings more.
At the same time, part of me is wondering if it’s the right/appropriate thing to do and if I should address this at all. Am I self sabotaging/being dramatic by having a conversation like that? (who am I kidding, as an ENTJ totally no way I won’t bring it up..).
Should I wait a little longer and let things unfold more since I haven’t known him that long? (unlikely I will be able to do that, my direct nature won’t allow it..but if you give me a valid logical argument , I might)
If I do move forward with the conversation, any tips on wording and specific things I should say/avoid saying? I have it well thought out in my head and don’t feel anxious about it, but always excited to make it better /get extra perspectives from you guys.
Any advice and input greatly appreciated! Thanks so much in advance.
Short version: Started dating a man a few weeks ago. Really like him and we seem to have a lot in common. I get a vibe he may still be in love/not over his ex, he talks about her a lot etc. Thinking of having a friendly check in with him about this and maybe pulling the breaks a little- 1. not sure if should 2 if I do, looking for any tips/advice on how to go about it
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2020.09.07 16:58 Hieroglyphs ENTJ Dating Introvert

I recently started dating this girl and realized she’s extremely shy and introverted. I find this cute, being that I’m the exact opposite, but I was wondering if there is compatibility. Anyone dating or have dated an introvert, how was it?
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